A decision to relocate a senior to a retirement setting can be a monumental decision and can involve a tremendous drain on relationships and one's own emotional well-being. It's best if the discussion begins early on and the person making the move is as involved as possible in the decision-making process. If possible they should be involved in visiting various homes, asking questions, and packing/downsizing. It's important to recognize the tremendous sense of loss such a move entails, especially if there is not much notice. Sorting possessions can be an overwhelming experience as well, as one tries to separate the "memories from the possessions". Sometimes people need an opportunity to say "good-bye" to all they held dear for many years.
Where you move will determine what you can take with you. More independent settings will allow for more furnishings usually while more dependent settings like Long-Term Care homes, will dictate that very few items beyond clothing accompany the person. If time permits, one should allow a couple of months to plan for the move and the decisions that have to be made. If you are moving to a retirement setting, it is advisable to arrange a "trial stay" for a week or more so you can determine if it is a setting you want be in. If possible, before you move in, arrange to visit the home a few times, to try out meals and participate in activities. It will also allow you an opportunity to get to know other residents.
Downsizing - It's important to keep in mind that you should not move things that are not useful, functional, or overly important to you. Items should be durable and easy to care for but most importantly they should fit in your new place and allow space for you to move around. When you begin sorting belongings, don't try to overwhelm yourself with doing everything in one day. Remember to ASK FOR HELP if you need it. Don't try to do it alone if there are ready and willing volunteers who would love to help. Allow yourself a set amount of time, make sure you have what you need to pack (boxes/tape, etc.), start with the least used room first, work in one room at a time and start by sorting large items. You may wish to use a "colour coding system" to label boxes that will go in different rooms (e.g., green labels are for the kitchen, red for the bedroom etc.) and you may wish to use a similar colour system (or a numbering system) to label items you are dividing up between taking and giving away. Ensure you have a floor plan of your new home before deciding on furniture. It is helpful to "map out" the size of certain items so you can see what will fit in the space you have. If you have rooms with similar dimensions in your home, use them to gauge what things will look like in your new setting. Keep a list of the items you are keeping and where you want them to go in your new home.
Getting Rid of What you Don't Need - You may want to create several piles or boxes for different things - one will be to keep (try not to keep things you can't use), another to throw in the garbage or recycle, another to give to loved ones, and a fourth to give to charity. For expensive items, you might want to seek out an auction house.
Special Items - You may want to record in writing special stories related to each item and present your loved one with the story when you give them the item. Additionally, you may want to create a 'memory book' of your special items with photos of things that you hold dear that you can take with you to your new home. If possible allow loved ones to pick the items they would like to keep. It will make you feel much better knowing your special things are with people that will treasure them as much as you do.
Pre-moving Tasks - Prior to moving, make a list of tasks, target dates, and the person responsible. Ensure you have sent out move notifications to everyone who sends you mail - family, friends, credit card companies, insurance, banks, any government offices, etc. Arrange movers/packers/realtor. Notify utilities and your landlord. Have your mail redirected. Should the task of moving be overwhelming, you may also want to consider the option of hiring a seniors' moving company. They are companies that specialize in moving seniors and assisting with downsizing. There are several of these in existence, some of which are listed in our "Resources for Seniors" page on this website.
On Moving Day - Ensure you have a piece of small hand luggage with items you will need for the day, including any medications and snacks. Take an interest in your appearance and maintain a positive attitude. Arrange for a friend or relative to accompany you and stay with you on moving day. Unpack as much as possible and hang your pictures right away - it is what will make you feel at home! If you are moving to a seniors' residence ask if you can be matched with a long-time resident with similar interests who can be your 'buddy' as you adjust to your new home.
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